But, I’m still not use to it and it worries me every time. Im very upset but Im trying really hard to work on myself and confidence and self esteem I hadnt relised how men and women think so differently and Im 60 Regards xlizx My guy has been incognito for a little over two weeks now. So last time i heard from him was a non response to my messages.
I am in the middle of getting ready for my brothers wedding this weekend and there has been a lot of stress that i was chatting to him about. This is what i believe, and the article was spot on: the right man will not leave you.
He told me it was a slight chance I could be pregnant and yeah I got mad but it was as much as my fault as his. No calls, no messages, deleted me off his social media, I’m hurt. People aren’t definable, relationships aren’t definable. We meet someone, we go head on into “being serious”. As a woman I’ve been told by magazines, reality shows, media that relationships are this or that but the real deal is, humans are too complex to be fit into criteria.
We get too caught up in how people are supposed to act and our expectations continually suffer because of it. What is a certainty is that you can always keep being plugged into your own life, at all times. Genuine respect, friendship, emotional connection is important when you first meet someone you might like.
They tell themselves that she must know this isn’t going to work out and calling and telling her something she already knows would just be silly, so that’s the end of that. If he disappears, it’s because he isn’t the right guy for you.
Sometimes I didn’t realise men were interested in me and I ghosted them unintentionally when it turned out they were interested, so, I have done the ghosting myself. He began to slither away, but we would always get back together. So, I am making the effort to work on myself, mentally I feel great.
Thing is, everyone talking on this forum about being ghosted has probably done it themselves to others whether you realise it or not!!! It’s not just, “I met the greatest person and I’m so sad they weren’t into me.” Let emotion take a back seat, enjoy your life, take into consideration that you are still a catch, that you too have power (not just the person who decided to leave) and you should weigh up LOGISTICALLY whether they were actually, indeed, right for you. 3 weeks ago when I was in the hospital for a week after suffering my first seizures while at work, my ghost had had enough. I am finally sleeping and feeling rested allows me to make better decisions, I know I didn’t do anything wrong, so it’s his loss.
Until today he has not responded, though I see him always online on Facebook.
He has a habit of responding late or worst not responding at all to my messages and he has his reasons. Been there recently and if i put my logical head on I realise hes got lots of Issues.